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Cyber Dating - Dr. Phil is On-Board!

I don't normally watch daytime tv, unless there is a disaster to keep track off.  I was visiting some country cousins last week and they do watch daytime tv.  One of the gals was channel flipping and I heard, "Next on Dr. Phil, helping a woman get over her fears of cyberdating."  Or something to that effect.  Dr. Phil and Cyberdating, well I couldn't resist.

I didn't get to see the whole show but the gist of it was this, that cyberdating, like any dating is a legit way to meet someone if you use some common sense and caution when you go about it.  It isn't just for losers and cheaters, etc. 

Hey, that's what I've been saying all along! Just think, Dr. Phil and I are perfectly in sync on this.  Here's a link to the show if you'd like to check it out:  http://drphil.com/shows/show/740/

There are hints about profiles and pictures, etc., all the stuff I cover in my e-book on the subject: http://todaybooks.com/product_info.php?products_id=123

What I love about cyberdating is that you can get right to the point.  You're both there looking for some fun or a date or a life partner.  You can check someone's profile and see what they're into.  If you want to avoid smokers, or vegans - two of my pets peeves - you can do so.  If you're looking for someone who likes to kayak or attend dog shows or play bridge, voila, there they are at the push of a button.

And, one of the great things is, you don't have to be perfect. If you aren't the kind of person who can sail into a bar or party and turn heads you can play Cyrano and win people over with your words.  Also, you never know what is going on brainwise with one of those head turners.  At least on the internet you know someone is literate and can use a computer! 

Hint: if your typing isn't very good, practice with an online typing program. Nothing makes you look more like a loser than not being able to type coherent sentences at a reasonable speed. 

Happy Cruising!

July 29, 2006 | Permalink | Comments (15)

Top Ten Lies of Cyberdating

Following in the path of Guy Kawasaki  Let The Good Times Roll I've decided to do my own "Top Ten Lies List" for Cyberdating.  As an homage to  David Letterman I shall do so in reverse order.

Top Ten Lies of Cyberdaters

10.          "My Cam is Broken"

                Really Means:  If you could see me, you'd run in the other direction

9.          "I Don't Have A Photo"

               Really Means:  I'm nothing like the description in my profile

# 8        "I'm a Lingerie Model" 

             Really Means:  I have a great picture of a lingerie model to send you.

# 7        "There Are No Real Women On The Internet"

              Really Means:  What does a guy have to do to get laid around here?

#6         "Oh I Love Children"

              Really Means:  Ooh, sex-starved divorcee;  I'm gettin' lucky tonight.

#5         "Your Photo  Gets Mine"

             Really Means:  I'm a perve; send me a hot photo and you'll never hear from me again.

# 4      "I Fell Asleep"

            Really Means:  I was fooling around in another window and forgot you were there.

#3         "I'm In An Open Relationship"    

            Really Means:  I'm not gettin' any at home anymore.         

# 2        "Lesbian Seeks Hot, Horny Girl Under Twenty-five for Sapphic Adventures"

             Really Means:  Can my husband watch?

# 1        "The Power Went Out Because of Hurricane Katrina"   

              Really Means:  I was finished weren't you?

May 05, 2006 in Dating | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

Cyberdating - Is It Safe?

Most of the articles floating around about cyberdating portray it another of life's potholes to be swerved around as quickly as possible.  We hear of broken marriages, sex addicts living in squalor because they won't leave their computers long enough to take a shower, and my favorite: a guy who dated his mother for six months without knowing it.

Cyberdating, like any form of dating has its pitfalls.  Back in 1977, Hollywood turned Judith Rossner's best selling novel Looking for Mr. Goodbar into the quintessential baby-boomer cautionary tale.  Dedicated teacher by day, sex-starved denizen of singles bars at night, Diane Keaton's character finds her life sprialling out of control:  Drugs, Danger & Mr. Wrong. Made us all think twice about going to singles' bars.

In Sea of Love, 1989, Ellen Barkin plays a divorcee with a thing for poetic personal ads in the New York Daily News.  Trouble is, all her dates end up dead.  Who will be the next victim?  Drinking, Danger & Ms. Wrong?

1998's You've Got Mail was pretty benign but of course Tom Hanks' and Meg Ryan's characters had already met so we couldn't blame AOL for their complete lack of on-screen chemistry. Kinda Boring, Mr. & Ms. Good Enough.

Fast forward to the new millenium and the latest form of dating and what do we have in store?  Perhaps Christina Ricci and Joaquim Phoenix in Virtual Strangers?  High Speed, High Drama, Bad Connection.  Maybe they'll finally get those Academy Awards they deserve.

I'm here to tell you that internet dating is no more (or less) dangerous than any other form of dating.  Use your common sense.  Don't give out personal information too soon, don't meet strangers in dark alleys, don't send $3,000 to that charming gentleman whose million dollars is just out of reach in some bank vault but he'd be happy to share it with you if you  would just get that money to him.  Use your noggin and play safe.

Oh, and get a cam so that you can be sure that you are getting it on with a Swedish model and not........well not your mother, for Pete's sake!

By the way, for you women seeking women out there.  The best place to find real women is on Pink Sofa.  This is a lesbian-owned site where you can meet women from around the world.

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